‘[Don’t] even look in my general direction’: Entitled sister-in-law enforces petty rules after couple moves in, malicious compliance ensues

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    r/r/MaliciousCompliance u/KingQuenchie 12 hours ago Posted by Don't want me touch your stuff? Gotcha I won't M OC Due to the currant cost of living crisis I (21X) am currently living in my partners parents house with their parents and their sister(23F). For a little bit of context my partner (24X) and I have tried for years to sustain a healthy relationship with her for it to only blow up in my face.
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    Their sister and I even got along for many months to the point where I even started to consider her a friend. I did everything in my power to accommodate for her OCD as I have it as well so I understand the struggle, I listens to her problems and console her when her and her parents weren't getting along.
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    Eventually I had to set some boundaries, and ask for accommodations for my own disabilities, and she used that as an excuse to use a bunch of things I said to her against me. She eventually lost her on us, started threatening to throw rocks at us, and even went to her parents saying that my partner and I tried to run her over which was never true!
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    SO while I am here I choose to stay downstairs and only show my face when I'm leaving the house or when I need a shower. That being said we moved in while she was at a friends house in another province. After her parents told my partners sister that we had to live here for a while, she sent us a set of rules to abide by;
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    "I am setting some boundaries for when I come home for the two of you, and they will be adhered to. You will not speak to me, use my stuff eat my food, drink my coke, or even look in my general direction. If anything concerns me, neither of you will be involved. To be frank I'm going to pretend like neither of you exist. I am working on my own right now and I'm not putting that at risk for the two of you. I'm telling you this now so you have time to get a grip on it because I'm so serious that i
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    My partner and I laughed a little, but we don't argue. We knew what the drill was before we moved in. The only problem is is that if the things we use in the house aren't clean enough she will start to cause problems. No matter how much time i give her before i clean the shower she won't move her stuff. In fact I think she puts more in cause I'll go into the bathroom to shower when no one's home and there will be less items in the shower than when I'm cleaning up!
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    So I've decided that when I clean the bathroom that I'll leave a LARGE area around all their sisters items untouched and it's getting out of hand! Some spots I haven't cleaned since we moved in here (2.5 weeks ago) and who knows the last time they were cleaned before that!! Some of her spots are almost 3 shades darker than the rest of the bathroom. She has been throwing my down the stairs,
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    repetitively calling her mom at work to both complain about me and make up things to complain about. It's IS starting to get to me but there's really nothing I can do about it until she is willing to simply coexist with me. I'll 100% keep yall updated on this cause I can only imagine the amount of fun that's about to start.
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    ElleDeeNS 11 hr. ago The only people I feel bad for in this situation are the parents who have to deal with all of this assorted nonsense from grown- adults.
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    KingQuenchie OP. 11 hr. ago They created that woman so I don't feel bad one bit Imao. And like I have done everything in my power to keep things sane here and there seems to be no way to make her happy. Plus it's not like I posted this for pity
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    Zoreb1 11 hr. ago And where is your partner in all this? Is is their job to run interference between you and sister/parents?
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    KingQuenchie OP 11 hr. ago They have been doing their best. They have been dealing with this same pattern their whole life. No matter what their sister does their parents won't do anything about it, and there's only so much we can do cause nothing we do is good enough.
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    marvinsands 9 hr. ago Treat the bathroom like you would if you lived in a college dorm... carry your stuff to the bathroom when you go there, and carry them out when you leave. Never leave your stuff in the bathroom that someone untrustworthy is also using. Google "dorm bathroom tote" (or caddy) for ideas.
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    KingQuenchie OP. 9 hr. ago We do. It's her who has her stuff scattered across the bathroom. All of my stuff is contained downstairs as I said at the beginning I have done everything in my power to have a healthy relationship with her.
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    ollie8375 7 hr. ago I cannot for the life of me understand how fully capable people who can go out and earn a living can complain about their living situation, especially one handed to them. Those poor parents. To have spent 20 something years caring for children who cant assume responsibility in life. If you don't like something about your life - change it and stop complaining because frankly, it is your own fault you are in the predicament you're in.
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    klecove 4 hr. ago . this story is just sad. All of these people are actual adults?

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